I must admit, I am sorry for having taken so long to make another entry. I know that my last one ended in a bit of a cliff-hanger, but the events that followed have me harrowed, and I only now can begin to take a breath and set them down.
Perhaps it is regrettable that I cannot go into everything here, but I will say that my mother and her family have been under some extreme pressure – and it really is all my Uncle Don’s fault.
Let’s begin with a very simple family dynamic and essential family tree. My mother’s parents are now both dead – with my grandmother passing away about ten years ago, now. Wow – it’s hard to believe. But, anyway – the essential players in this drama are my Mother and my Step-Father (George), along with her sister (Aunt Jo) and her husband (Uncle Jim), as well as their brother (Uncle Don) and Pat (who is one of those relations that was married into the family at one time, but has since become widowed or divorced – but still is considered to be part of the family, even though I only found out about her within the past few years). There are other siblings in my mother’s family, but they do not come into play here.
When I was very young, around first or second grade, my mother’s family (Mother, Grandmother, Aunt Jo, and myself) all bundled up one Easter to go see my Uncle Don and Aunt Jean married in
One of the interesting things about my Aunt Jean is that she is Canadian, and her mother (Nan) came directly from
My family has always card for my Aunt Jean, and even after my Uncle Don decided to leave her and Tim to move to
This goes on for about ten years, until he decides that he can’t take it any more and has to move to
Well, when he got to
Now, get this – here it starts getting interesting – Ellie moves to
Now, Donnie Ike came to visit for Christmas, and all of my mother’s family is convinced he is being neglected if not abused by Ellie. And, my Aunt Jo took a very strong liking to Donnie Ike while he was here – and invited him to come and visit some this Summer. Well, ever since then, Uncle Don has been trying to get them to agree to allow Donnie Ike to move in with them after visiting this summer. What’s more, he’s decided that Donnie will stay with Jim and Jo during the week for his stay while getting a job (at 14 with no car) and then be passed off from them to Don and Pat for the weekend, then back again for the week. (Keep in mind that the trip from Jim and Jo’s to Pat’s apartment is about two hours travel time.)
But, the thing is – and Jim and Jo are considering this, for the simple fact that Don is in his seventies and in all reality cannot care for a teenager on his own – Don has done nothing in any legal sense to give them any sort of custody or even guardianship of Donnie Ike – even though they keep trying to speak to and rendezvous with the both of them to put all of this together. (That was one thing that was going to be discussed after the birthday lunch.) Evidently, he has been saying one thing to my Aunt, another thing to my Mother, and now we find out that he has been telling Donnie Ike that all of this has already been settled and will be happening.
So, it seems that Don is trying to pit members of the family against each other, for no other reason than he is bored and has nothing else to do. So, as a result, my mother has decided that her brother, Ellie, and Pat are all from the Pit of Hell and the Abyss itself.